You keep choosing people who can't show up for you – or pull away the moment things get real. Either way, you're exhausted. Therapy can help you break the pattern.
Trauma-informed therapy for attachment wounds, anxious-avoidant patterns, and the dating cycle you can't seem to break. EMDR-trained. Virtual sessions across California.
A space to slow down
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Feel without fixing
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Understand your patterns
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Build emotional language
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Trauma-informed care
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Healing that feels real
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A space to slow down ∙ Feel without fixing ∙ Understand your patterns ∙ Build emotional language ∙ Trauma-informed care ∙ Healing that feels real ∙
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Therapy That Actually Helps You Figure Things Out
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Maybe you shut down. Maybe you spiral and self-sabotage. Maybe you keep picking people who trigger something you don’t fully understand. My job is to help you see what you can't see yet – the patterns, the blind spots, the stuff that's running in the background. We'll unpack what’s really happening, not just what it looks like on the surface. I’ll meet you with curiosity and zero judgment, but I’ll also be real with you and tell you the thing you may not want to hear. We'll move at your pace, but we won’t ignore the hard stuff.
Break the Pattern
Individual Therapy
You’ve analyzed your feelings from every angle, but logic hasn’t stopped the spiral. Whether it’s overthinking a text or feeling "too much" in relationships, we dig into the root cause. We move beyond surface-level venting to rewrite the background scripts keeping you stuck in limbo.
Reconnect with Intention
Couples Therapy
Heal the Root
EMDR Therapy
One person pulls away, the other chases harder. The same fight happens over and over again. It's exhausting – and underneath it, there's usually something neither person knows how to say. Couples work is about getting to that layer. Understanding the patterns, not just managing the symptoms.
Some things don't get better just by talking about them. EMDR helps process the memories and experiences that stay stuck in your body – the ones that still get triggered even when you "know better." It's about finally letting your nervous system catch up to what your brain already understands.
About You
Let’s be honest – you're probably here because something's not working. Maybe it's that situationship you can't stop overanalyzing. Or the way you get attached too fast and then spiral when they pull away. Maybe you keep choosing people who give you nothing and somehow convince yourself that's fine. Or maybe you’re just sick and tired of lowkey feeling like you're not enough, that you're hard to love, that everyone else has it figured out except you.
A lot of the people I work with don’t know how to explain what they’re feeling yet. They just know they feel insecure, reactive, or stuck. Maybe you learned to be easygoing, low-maintenance, or not make a big deal out of things. Now you’re in relationships that aren’t good for you, chasing validation, ignoring red flags, or wondering why your self-esteem crashes the second someone pulls away. Nothing’s wrong with you – you’re just stuck in patterns no one ever taught you how to understand.
Therapy is a space to slow down the spiral and figure it out. We’ll talk honestly about your reactions, your patterns, and what’s driving all of it – without judgment or therapist-y fluff. I’ll support you, but I’ll also be real with you when something’s not adding up. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s feeling more grounded, less chaotic, and way more secure in yourself and your relationships.
What’s actually going on?
About Me
Hi, I’m Jenny!
Associate Marriage and Family Therapist
I’m naturally curious about people and how they make sense of their emotions, especially when feelings were never talked about or modeled growing up. In sessions, I’m warm, present, and real. I’ll listen closely, reflect what I’m noticing, and help you connect dots you might not see yet. I won’t talk in circles or overcomplicate things – and I’ll gently call things out when it matters.
I believe therapy works best when it feels honest and grounded. Change doesn’t usually happen in big, dramatic moments. It shows up when reactions soften, patterns start to loosen, and you feel more steady in yourself and your relationships. That’s the kind of work I care about.
I work with people who feel emotionally overwhelmed, confused about their relationships, or stuck in patterns they don’t fully understand yet. A lot of my clients are navigating dating, breakups, situationships, or that constant feeling of,“Why does this keep happening to me?” They’re not looking for quick fixes; they want things to actually make sense.
I’m naturally curious about people and how they make sense of their emotions, especially when feelings were never talked about or modeled growing up. In sessions, I’m warm, present, and real. I’ll listen closely, reflect what I’m noticing, and help you connect dots you might not see yet. I won’t talk in circles or overcomplicate things – and I’ll gently call things out when it matters.
I believe therapy works best when it feels honest and grounded. Change doesn’t usually happen in big, dramatic moments. It shows up when reactions soften, patterns start to loosen, and you feel more steady in yourself and your relationships. That’s the kind of work I care about.
★★★★★“Jenny brings a grounded, authentic energy to her work that quickly builds a trusting environment. She's compassionate but not enabling [and] keeps it real because she wants her clients to grow.”
Ned Klein
AMFT, APCC
Multiple insurances accepted
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Aetna
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Cigna
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Blue Shield of CA
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Magellan
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United Healthcare
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Optum
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Sliding scale
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Multiple insurances accepted ∙ Aetna ∙ Cigna ∙ Blue Shield of CA ∙ Magellan ∙ United Healthcare ∙ Optum ∙ Sliding scale ∙
Recently, on the blog ──────────────────────⬤
Attachment styles shape how we connect, date, fight, pull away, and stay longer than we should. Most people don’t realize this until they start noticing the same relationship patterns repeating with different people. Same confusion, same anxiety, same emotional whiplash – different face.
Attachment styles aren’t about what’s “wrong” with you. They’re about how your nervous system learned to handle closeness, distance, and emotional safety.
Attachment styles and modern dating: Why relationships keep feeling so hard
Attachment styles aren’t about what’s “wrong” with you. They’re about how your nervous system learned to handle closeness, distance, and emotional safety.
FAQs
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I am currently in-network with Aetna, Cigna, Blue Shield of California, Sharp/Magellan, and Optum/United Healthcare (UHC). If you have out-of-network benefits, I can provide a superbill.
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Individuals: $125/session┊Couples: $150/session
The prices listed above are for cash pay clients (those paying out of pocket) – if you’re using insurance, check with your insurance provider to determine your copay.
I do offer a limited number of sliding scale spots – please reach out for details.
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I require at least 24-hour notice for cancellations and reschedules. No-shows and sessions cancelled with less than 24 hours' notice are subject to the full session fee.
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At the moment, no! I only offer virtual therapy for California residents.
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Individuals: 55 minutes┊Couples: 85 minutes
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Weekly sessions are recommended, in order to establish consistency and build momentum. Over time, we can adjust the frequency based on your needs and goals.
If you're tired of analyzing the "why" and ready to change the "how," reach out.
So…what now?
If you’ve made it this far, something here probably hit.
Use the contact form to get in touch and tell me a little about what’s going on. I read every message and typically respond within 1-2 business days.
You can also reach me directly at jennyvtherapy@gmail.com.
